By Keziah Yusuf
It’s a new week beautiful talker and I hope your week is starting a whole lot better than the previous week..? Its pillow talk, let’s talk! I want to start with the ladies, I want to call your attention to what I call the balanced love scale. The society has made us believe that buying a gift for your boyfriend, calling him or showing care, as being cheap thus we grew up to be self-centred, for instance, a man will give you a hundred and one missed calls and you have your reasons for missing his calls, you tell him your reasons and he understands but if you give a man two missed calls, you let hell loose. No reason seems enough for you because you feel that you should be his priority but honey let it be balanced. If you are dating a guy that you feel is rich and buying him a gift will be ridiculous then my dear you are so wrong, it mustn’t be an expensive gift. It can be something as cheap as a roll on or a cotton buds. Treat that dude like a king just as he treats you!
Let’s talk about lovers quarrel. How often do you fight? I know there is a myth that fight makes love stronger and I have my reservations, let’s agree it does make it stronger but it shouldn’t be a routine and it shouldn’t be the time you say all sort of nasty things to your partner out of anger.
Who you go to for advice when you have a misunderstanding with your partner matters a lot. Going to a bestie is not a bad Idea but how happy is your bestie knowing you are dating such a nice guy or girl? How experienced, matured bother emotionally and otherwise is your bestie? Asking a mentor is the best and sure way of having a great relationship, they are not just matured but experienced as well, they’ve been where you are.
I want to encourage you to try and settle arguments without a third party. I know what you are thinking, yes, is good to have a man or woman who has an earthly authority who they listen to, is very crucial not only in relationships but in marriage as well. I will even advice you to run from any man or woman who doesn’t have an earthly authority and who don’t intend to have. What am saying here is that whatever you do in courtship/dating will reflect in your marriage, you wouldn’t want to have a court hearing over every major and minor issues in your home.
Talk about how you can resolve arguments without a third party. Don’t keep that thought to yourself, let’s talk it over through yusufkeziah01@gmail.com .
