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Marriage makes you a foster child of your spouses family. While some families are open and accommodative others will unambiguously let you know that you are a foreign body.
Dishing out outright sentiment and victimisation because you married their Child or their sibling. With time this changes with some while others remain adamant.
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Whether you like it or not there would be issues, but don’t allow your family press your spouse so much that he or she end up disregarding them or become bitter towards them.
It’s true that not everyone will like you or welcome you into the family, it is however important for couples to agree and create a boundary making their parents and siblings to recognize and respect their spouse.
This will help deal with the entitlement mentality which has been a major cause of conflict.
Just to remind you that this is a tasking job, because you would be called names and end up as a topic for family gossip.
While mutual respect is cardinal in this relationship, never expect your family to respect your spouse if you keep flaunting their weaknesses before them.
It is important that you don’t make your spouse suffer in the hands of your family through unending demands and service. Like wise it is important for you not to suffer your in-laws by denying them access to their child or sibling.
If your spouse is disrespected, victimised and maltreated by your family it is your fault. It is good to accept your spouse and their families, but you can not consistently antagonize some one and expect them to love you. That is why over time some spouses particularly women end up running back to their families because they don’t feel welcome. Little wonder in most cases children seem to be closer to their Mothers family, than their fathers.
Often times your best seems not to be good enough in this type of relationship. Be that as It may, it is important to keep sowing positive seeds, because in the end it will speak for you.
Remember that life is a circle, today you are a Son or Daughter in-law, tomorrow you would be a Mother and a Father in-law. However, It baffles me that most times we end up putting people through the same painful experience we had in the past and that’s why the circle continues.
In conclusion, for the preservation of relationship and mutual respect before marriage create a boundary and space, speak on behalf of your spouse because no woman wants a coward for a husband and no man wants conspirator for a wife.
For the Woman don’t make your family believe that your husband is their new found bread winner, for the Man don’t make your family believe your wife is their new found house help.
In trying to achieve this, am urging you not to abandon them because you always have a role to play.
M. Daniels.
