By Keziah Yusuf
Hello precious reader! Today I decided to write about a couple and I would like to hear from you, it can be an advice for them or what you think of the story. Juicy right? Yea I know..! You can reach me through yusufkeziah01@gmail.com it’s pillow talk, let’s talk.
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This story is a real life story about a couple, when I say couple I don’t mean married folks. They are in a relationship, they don’t just have a different personality but are also from a different state and culture. The girl is from the East while the man is from the North. They had different backgrounds, upbringing, values and principles but yet love each other. He was advised to end the relationship with her and get someone from the same region as his but he refused. There was a time he feared that she might leave him for her tribe or someone from the same region and she also felt the same. But because she showed him that she can be trusted he laid down his guard but she still hasn’t let down hers because she hasn’t felt the assurance she needed but one thing they are both sure of is that they love each other and are hoping to settle down in spite of their cultural differences.
Juicy now here is the deal, they don’t speak the same love language. They love each other but they don’t speak the same love language, she for instance feels loved when he calls her or constantly reminds her of how much he loves her but he don’t see calls as a way of showing love nor does he believe that saying I love you to her all the time is the best way to show her that he cares about her.
He believes that action speaks louder than words, you will agree with me that her primary love language is affirmation but his in this case, his love language is act of service. This became a big issue and was at a point of breakup but they sorted things out. They sat down and discussed on how to make each other feel loved but they were both hurt before they got to reconcile this is because of lack of communication. I don’t wanna bore you with so much details but in a nutshell, this couple realised that their arguments can be resolved without hurting each other and that they will always Express their grievances to each other because they are all human and it’s impossible to know what the other is thinking without that thought being shared.
I would like to appreciate my case study couples for allowing me to use a bit of their story. Dear reader, this couple is telling you that love shouldn’t be restricted to one region, that you should show love to the person you love in the language that they understand even if it seems absurd to you and that you should talk about your mode of conflict resolution. Most importantly tell each other I love you even when you are upset with your partner, it helps strengthen relationships. Let’s talk!
