CHRISTIAN YOUTH AND MARRIAGE ( WHAT YOUTH SHOULD KNOW BEFORE SAYING I DO ) BY DENIS EMMANUEL SIKINI
Composed by Keziah Yusuf
Denis Emmanuel Sikini was born in Kaltungo Local Government Area of Gombe State. The fourth born of Mr and Late Mrs Emmanuel Sikini in the year 1980, he is married to Maria Denis Emmanuel Sikini and blessed with a daughter; miss Anna Denis Emmanuel. Denis is a graduate of Gombe State University, department of Political Science and God has blessed him with the ability to write.
This book is trying to remind some people (especially the youth) know what it takes for one to go in to marriage. The target population of this book is the youth of this present contemporary. Most of us the youth are viewing marriage from a different perspective than how God planned it to be since from the inception.
The author call on youths in Christ is to make every effort to understand what really marriage is, and what it takes for one to be called a married man or woman, the responsibilities attached to the institution, and the accountability that God will ask each of every individuals (as husband and as wife) on how they treated each other as well as the children given to them and any other person that lived under their roof. The author also stated ‘enemies target is not the unbelievers, but the Christian family. For he knows that once our homes are broken, even the church at large will not be strong enough to distract of hinder his evil plans against the children of God at large’
The book has fourteen chapters and pages one to eighty-six. The picture of how the book looks like is shown below.
The author opined that as people’s faith and their understanding of who God is, so are their understanding of marriage. He gave a lot of reasons why some people get married; some people marry to satisfy their urges, he also cited Martin Luther King who stated that many men marry only to for physical reasons, abusing their wives and knew nothing about marriage. The question is; why do you wanna get married?
The author cited many scholarly definition of marriage; according to the author, marriage is defined as an agreement and mutual understanding guided by love that is existing between two opposite sex which brought them together (legally) as husband and wife under the same roof and in sharing one another’s responsibility with the aim of raising a Godly offspring.
Outline of the chapters;
Definition of marriage
Genesis of marriage
What constitute marriage?
At what age?
Factors affecting marriage
Personal interest
Who is influencing you?
Whose responsibility?
Whose fault?
What if?
The oath ( for better, for worse)
Is there a problem free marriage?
What makes marriage stand strong?
The wilderness experience.
Are you wondering what marriage is all about? What constitute marriage? ‘at what age’? How will your personal interest will affect your marriage? Your responsibility and or duty as a husband or wife? Then this book is for you…
This book is not only meant for the unmarried youths only but for the married and even teenagers as well. If you are planning to get married; I’ll encourage you to read this book because this book gives a clear point we all have been missing out and that is the fact that God is the author of marriage and you cannot have a Godly marriage without him. This book will also make evaluate your reasons and intentions of getting married, you will ask yourself whether or not you are getting married for the right reasons and what exactly you are getting into.
To teenagers; if you believe in the saying that saying ‘ do not cross your breaches before you get to them’ then I would say this is a necessary breach that you need to start rehearsing on how to cross. I will encourage you read not only this book but other related books. Know what you are getting into, you can plan a wedding in less than a month and it will be successful but marriage is more than meets the eye. Because you dated him or her for ten years does not mean you know what leaving together would be like.
To the married: don’t consider it too late to read this book, this book will provide you with an insight on where you missed it, and help you make necessary changes.
Critic: this book is written for the Christian ‘youth’ but it has too many explanations that made it seems like the author is addressing teenagers..
- Related books: the meaning of marriage by Timothy Keller, Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
Good Job Kezzy